The unsaid

while the fire rise and subside

      Love remains content with a smile

while the comfort catalyst fuels

      cool breeze around restrains

At the End,

      as above aren't mutually exclusive

      combination creates a new world.

But, few knew, it’s the beginning

      to a long valley of camaraderie

      intimate but widening.

U r my..First & Last thought

                 As the clock struck 6'
    I hear the cuckoo announcing the sun's arrival
    I wake up to the fact, am not beside you
days rolled into months , months rolled into years
              from the time i met you
              There is never a minute,
I wished to be somewhere other than beside you
     with the roller coaster ride of hopes
     and  inability to forecast the future
                           am tired
              As Sun rises and sets
                  I wish the next day
       be a beginning for our combined life

tribute to women

From the minute of birth

My mind does not recollect my first day on the earth how hard I try. But from the experiences I saw and from encyclopaedias of motherhood, I understand what my mother went through on that day. I respect all the mothers for their strong will to endure the physical labour.

The one who caught my awe when I was 5

My grand ma who stopped her education after third class was my first mathematics teacher. An illiterate by modern norms, she taught applied maths with such an ease that mathematics became my favourite subject. The straight forwardness and the patience with which she handled hundreds of guests every fortnight was an epitome of patience.

Most valuable lesson of my life

My senior at college, once discussed with me about her hobbies and friends. While she spoke about her, I learnt something which is her trait. Throughout our discussion, she never spoke ill of anyone. And the last sentence she spoke struck me. “No one is perfect, No one is imperfect. Everyone has positives and negatives”.

Lastly

Around me, I see many women striving hard for their family. I am inspired by their hard work to excel in life, their determination to support the family, despite the choices-work/home posed to them every minute.

Thought Process.........Food coupons debacle

Everyone might have heard the hype regarding not accepting food coupons in many popular retail stores.

Why food coupons are widely used?

There is a tax exemption on the food coupons the employees opts for in an organization. But the amount of coupons for which tax is empted is limited (3000 / month mostly).

Now let us try to answer a question. Are food coupons really helpful?

  The cycle of food coupons

       The organization which issues coupons (sodexo or any other Edenred ) gets a compensation or more     food coupons for lesser monetary value. Say for example 1010 worth coupons for 1000/- . The employee will be given 1000 worth coupons instead of 1000 INR. The tax exemption is 100 (10%). The employee pays in a retail store for his groceries. The grocery store claims 1000 INR, but will be paid 980 INR (it is just an example). In this cycle, who is losing? The upper layer shows everything is transparent and consumer is not affected. But let us flip the coin and look the other side.

       We used to shop at the nearest grocery stores and the markets where the ambience and presentation might not be taken care of. But the cost of items is reasonable and quality is good. These are the places where the rural of India strives for their livelihood. Now as we opt for food coupons for tax exemptions, we shop at retail stores which will mark the goods at a higher price (keeping in mind the return for coupons). I don’t deny the fact that the retail stores provide employment, but coupons ensure that consumers throng retail stores even for small things leaving behind the traditional stores.

The retail stores can survive without coupons and at the same time small businesses can survive.

Can’t the government give a tax exemption for 36000/ year? Doesn’t a common household expenditure on food be 3000/month?

What help does parallel money do for our country?

Does government make bills for common man?

The above questions are left unanswered..

Thought Process....Happy NewYear

A year rolled off… There might be disappointments, tears, smiles, laughs, enjoyment, boredom, pleasure, heartbreaks that got a place. Now we are in a NewYear. As it is always, we never know what lay ahead.

Some conservationists might view this eve as one more way to waste the energies, while some liberalites might view it as another chance to party. But, we can always find a moderate view in between two extremists. In the monotonous life we lead, we never get around to introspect, enjoy simple things. Let us relax after celebrations, introspecting.

History repeats when it comes to resolutions we take. Let us do something different this year. First step in the process of difference is not to call them resolutions, they are just a few things to betterment of life. The below things might be stored in our subconscious memory, here is a gentle reminder

          Smile at atleast one stranger a day. May be the small smile might help in forgetting life long sorrows for a minute.

          Read a book atleast once in a week to spend time for yourself

          Dress up everyday as if there is an occasion

          Feed one hungry stomach atleast once in a month

          Never keep your passions on back burner

          Thank people whenever you get a chance

          Spend quality time with your family

          Take up a hobby.

              

Celebrate Whole year…Rock in your own way.

HAPPY NEWYEAR

Thought Process....craft your dreams

Every girl dreams of her after-marriage life as a perfect blend of joy and happiness. The common expectations of a girl from the future husband are caring, understanding and so on.. Many people look at the life in their parental house and relationship of their parents and expect their own married life to start smoothly from the day one. But the hidden truth is every relationship goes through ups and downs in the initial stages. The duration of the initial stage depends upon many factors. A relationship is a blend of adjustments, mutual understanding, sharing, caring…and at times misunderstanding, petty quarrels… only then it becomes perfect. ‘Made for each other’ cannot be attributed to all and not in one’s hands. But ‘living for each other’ can be crafted carefully for a lifelong happiness. In these busy lives, what is needed for a happy relationship is supporting each other, leaving behind the past, and the realization that no relationship is perfect. We get to live only one life at a time, y not live it with happiness, content, joy and pleasure!!!!!.

Thought Process...........household trifles

One day I was travelling in a bus in the evening peak hours. As I had nothing to do, I was going through the conversation I had with one of my colleagues before I left the office for that day. The prologue of that conversation goes like this. ‘He loves a girl from a different region (of course from the same state). He asked his Mom to approach the girl’s parents to discuss marriage. The grounds for his Mom’s rejection are that the women in the region from which the girl hails are stubborn and dominating.’ On hearing this, I was perplexed (not to mention that I am from the same region). What bothered me is a question. "When are women called dominating? " My inquisitive mind came up with two questions as answers. The first is ‘Is it when women don’t give their partner a chance to say?’ The second is ‘Is it when women take a right decision in the family they strive for’.

Unfortunately, the answer for the both the questions is ‘yes’. The female partner in every household takes up the responsibility of maintaining the house, grooming the children, working to support financially. Then what is wrong if she takes a right decision on behalf of her family. If a guy listens to his Mom, he will be tagged with all the good adjectives known. If the same guy listens to his wife, he will be tagged ‘hen-pecked’. In this 21^st century where women empowerment is rising, their sub-ordinate positions continue to prevail in the households. But, the sad part is the person who opposes her struggle in the household to break the shackles is a female. I am not generalizing my ideas. But, these are the things most women in India come across in their day-to-day life. When we raise our voice against traditional conservatism for equal rights and recognition, let us be united among ourselves supporting each other. I am not a feminist, but a moderate person who believe that extremity has nothing to do with gender, caste, region and religion.